Life Through The Lens : January

03 February 2014

I've gotten a little behind with my weekly posts about my photography project, Life through the lens. It was inevitable really, but I've come up with a solution. Monthly posts :)

I learned a few things during January, and had lots of fun. I've defintely had a good start to the year and I'm looking forward to learning more and seeing how my photos change as the year progresses. Without any more rambling, here's what January looked like, plus a few extra favourites that weren't included in the project.






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365 is a photo a day photography project that I'm undertaking in 2014.
I'm endeavouring to record and document more of my family's everyday memories for prosperity.
I'll be sharing my photos weekly here on This Beautiful Mess. I'm also sharing them daily on my photography blog - Life Through The Lens.
If you're embarking on a similar project in 2014, please leave a comment so I can check it out.
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My Say : "Plus Size" Models

29 January 2014

Recently I read an article on cosmopolitan.com, which is rather ironic now that I've decided to write this post, anyway the article was called "Things you should never say to a fat girl". I came across it on Pinterest and took the bait thinking I'd end up with interweb rage, but I was pleasantly surprised. It was a rather accurate and honest list of things that have the potential to really piss a fat girl off. The one that really had me nodding was this

I mean really? Nail head? Laura Beck totally hit it with that one with both points! Anyway, where was I going with this, oh that's right, I saw something on Facebook today that made this article even more profound for me.
Australian Cosmopolitan - March 2014
Can you see the irony yet? This is Australian Cosmo's March 2014 cover. It was all over Facebook about how wonderful and fabulous it was that a mainstream fashion mag had finally put a "plus size" model on it's cover. Now Robyn Lawley is stunning, do not mistake what I'm about to say as sledging this beautiful woman. My issue is with the fashion industry, society and the "fatshion" circles that are ok with calling this beautiful size 12 woman plus size! 

As a fat woman, I want to see the brands that I buy using models who are my size. I want to see what their clothes look like on an apple shaped size 24 woman, not on an hourglass shaped size 12/14 gal. But it really irks me when I see women like Robyn touted as "plus size". Do you know what message that sends to women and especially young girls? Imagine being a young impressionable girl who's a size 12 and already slightly subconscious about her body, because lets face it society paints a very clear image of what is "beautiful". Imagine then seeing this woman, this beautiful, real woman referred to as "plus size". Can you imagine what comes next? That one short statement has just added a shit load of pressure, insecurity and self doubt to an already overloaded young mind.

Lets look at the alternative scenario. Imagine being a fat woman who's spent the better part of her late twenties learning to love the body she's in, trying to undo all the negative thoughts, views and habits that have been thrust at her all her life. Imagine the kickback that comes when seeing Robyn referred to as "plus size". Imagine the negativity that sneaks through the cracks, the hard work that starts to unravel, the lingering self doubt that looms large.

You see it doesn't do anyone a service to label models by anything other than a size. Size is fact, everything else is open to interpretation and that's where the damage occurs. Robyn Lawley herself wants to be referred to as a model, plain and simple. Regardless of her size, she is a model, just like Miranda Kerr and Tess Munster are. Why do we, the societal we, have to put a label on everything?


life through the lens - week two

19 January 2014

Wow, it's been an interesting week. We're in the middle of replacing a leaking shower at the moment and I've gotten behind on almost everything that I had planned to do this week. I have managed to keep taking my daily photos, although I must admit I haven't been as focused as I wanted to be. Never the less, welcome to week two.








8. My little water baby. 9. Penny Pincher's watering can. 10. The Dude eating cake. 11. The Dude engrossed in Minecraft. 12. Clear blue sky. 13. The Dude with Billy Beetle. 14. A big hole.
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365 is a photo a day photography project that I'm undertaking in 2014.
I'm endeavouring to record and document more of my family's everyday memories for prosperity.
I'll be sharing my photos weekly here on This Beautiful Mess. I'm also sharing them daily on my photography blog - Life Through The Lens.
If you're embarking on a similar project in 2014, please leave a comment so I can check it out.
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Socially inept

10 January 2014

Have you ever say in a room full of people and still felt alone? That's my current predicament, and funnily enough the room I'm in is filled with people and children I know. This often happens to me in large groups, I just seem to lose my place socially. 

I never have been great at social situations, I tend to hang back and wait for the conversation to come my way. When I do find someone to chat to I have a tendency to stretch the conversation so I don't find myself alone again. 

I think it goes back to my high school days. When we moved to a new school half way through the year it was hard to find my place. I got partnered up with a nice enough girl who was told to show me around. Apparently I didn't fit in with her friends and was quickly palmed off to another group. In hindsight it was probably a good thing because if they hadn't I might have got in to a lot more trouble in the following years. Anyway the group of girls that took me in were great. They accepted me for who I was. The following year my social skills expanded when a loud, in your face confident chick took me under her wing. She forced me out of my shell and we were best friends for the rest of high school. It was always just the two of us through those years. Of course we had other friends and her confidence rubbed off on me to a point where I found it easy to converse with almost anyone in our grade and not feel weird or awkward. These valuable skills she'd unknowingly taught me became second nature. 

After high school I lost contact with her. For the next few years though another friend from school and I became inseparable. Then we both met our future husbands and drifted apart. 

These days I don't have many girlfriends. It's something that makes me sad. It's not that I don't have any but I don't have that one girlfriend that I feel like I can talk to about anything at anytime. No BFF if you will. I have my husband who is my best friend and he's ALWAYS there for me. But every now and then, especially in large social settings like the one I'm currently sitting in, I just wish I had one best girlfriend to chat and laugh with and take the pressure and stress off.  Kids are a good buffer but I need to learn to deal with these things on my own I guess. 

For now I guess I'll hit publish on this little post and at least try to look a little bit more interested and approachable (while wishing I'd hidden vodka in my water bottle) for the next 50 mins  when I can finally head home to snuggle up on the couch with my husband, Miss Rosie and a good movie.

Have you had those feelings in large group? How do you deal with it?

Life through the lens - week one

08 January 2014

So in my last post I talked about getting back into photography again this year. I've decided the best way to do that is to undertake a 365/photo a day project. Am I crazy? Perhaps. Will it last? Who knows, but for now I'm excited about it.

This week was a little difficult. Getting back into the habit of carrying my camera everywhere wasn't as easy to fall back into as I thought. I took my camera on our trip to Launie on Sunday but forgot the memory card! To say I was frustrated is an understatement. But I made it through the week. So welcome to 365 - Week 1.








1. My baby boy. 2. Post dinner mess. 3. A budding rose. 4. The boys having fun. 5. Miss Rosie. 6. Dusted off my runners. 7. A beautiful end to week one.
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365 is a photo a day photography project that I'm undertaking in 2014.
I'm endeavouring to record and document more of my family's everyday memories for prosperity.
I'll be sharing my photos weekly here on This Beautiful Mess. I'm also sharing them daily on my photography blog - Life Through The Lens.
If you're embarking on a similar project in 2014, please leave a comment so I can check it out.
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